Never To Send

Although my acquaintance with never send writing is nothing new, I keep re-discovering how therapeutic it really is. I’m not talking about blog writing although that too has many benefits, for me the writer and the reader if by chance the reader can relate to what I write about. Never send writing is that text or email or conversation with someone that you are being brutally honest with, pouring out your true feelings regardless if they are rational or not. We all know that saying what you really feel can hurt the other person and most often can put yourself in hot water.

   Emailing, once the preferred method of talking with people who weren’t in touching distance often left the sender and receiver on pause to some kind of response. It also was a gateway for the sender to express themselves feeling powerful in words without eye to eye contact which was dangerous because words spoken out of anger or hurt once clicked on send there was no way of getting that email back and then came damage control after. Now it’s all about texting and posting with even quicker sending and receiving power with absolutely no way of unsending.

  Having been a victim or purpertrator of blurting out some raw emotions then spend more time trying to put out some fires I began writing letters in Word, not in emails, not in texts or chat windows, first. It gave me the opportunity to get off my chest what I needed to say and gave me time to calm down. As long as the other person could never read what I wrote I was free to say whatever and it lightened some of the heaviness not to mention it gave me time to rationalize my feelings and gain perceptive. I do realize that whatever I post online regardless if I go back and delete that it will be in some cyber cloud forever which is why I write most of my posts somewhere else offline.