Choices


I once was pushed to activate my anger so that a natural response would happen. This person was able to quickly find my weak spot and stir up the ugly side of me. After viewing my not so nice side I was informed that was done on purpose. I didn’t understand why someone would want to beat a hornet’s nest on purpose. After my mini melt down on him he offered me his reason for doing that.

   Many people both in person and online at first meet even the first 6 months portray the sweet, giving, flexible and emotionally stable persona. If there is a note of attraction in the mix the sweet and fun part get amped up, it’s part of the lure. Everybody wants the ooey gooey syrupy sweet in the beginning and that’s what everyone well almost everyone dishes out then when the sugary effects wear off and the sour bleeds through, it’s all shock and horror afterwards. By getting me to show the real side of me he got the shock and horror out of the way, no surprises and no excuses.

   At the time, I was still wet behind the ears as to navigating my way around the internet and chat rooms and it was some man whose name I can’t recall but I remember he was not from my own country and nothing really went forward with him. I didn’t think too about his method of madness until I met a few guys who I was attracted to and I became that overly sweet endearing woman until things turned not in my favor; then they got to see the dark side of me, the real side of me. Both men and women always seem to seek out honesty but when it’s handed to us we turn tail and run. If you saw the ugly side of the one you love in the meet and greet stage would you be able to step over all that and continue or would you rather be saturated in what you want to hear?

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