Comfortable in Uncomfortble

Being comfortably uncomfortable is where a majority of people end up or are currently in. It can be a personal relationship or a job or a particular situation you do have some control in but feel powerless in. Many of us are in jobs that we don’t like, we grab anything to get a pay check to feed the bills and sustain our families. It’s called sucking it up and doing what you have to. For awhile that works out and for many that’s okay, you learn to numb out all the things about that get by job and sometimes convince yourself that it ain’t that bad. Same thing applies to a personal relationship. A lot of people stay in a relationship not because it enhances them or brings out their best but because being alone sucks and sure as hell beats trying to start all over and maybe not working out so like the job that is making ends meet but ends up a teeth grinder, you trick your mind into staying.

You get to the point where you know what you’re doing or get lulled into a false sense of security which is where the comfortable slides in but all the while you know in your heart that this is not where you really want to be and you know that your journey with that place or person is nearing an end, it presses on you and sucks the life force out of you; that’s the uncomfortable. We settle for jobs and relationships, we get comfortable in our uncomfortable and for so many this becomes normal and expected. Yes, there are times when we have to sacrifice and do what we don’t really want to do but if you are in a position to not settle for some job for a pay check or some one because they are familiar; don’t. Don’t let go of your visions and don’t be afraid to let go of something if it’s making you comfortable in your uncomfortable.

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