A Reason for the Season
I have learned a lot about myself through other people. Sometimes I don't like what I see that I discover about myself or have a revelation about a person in my life. All I know is that over the course of 9 months I have had to deal with a lot of changes and had to face and try to overcome some obstacles I have taken note as to who my true supporters are even though I am more apt to find fault with them in other areas. My cheerleaders ,who I often disagree with and allow stupid irritations to get in the way lift me up when I fall and encourage me not to lose faith or give up. I sometimes taint their support with doubt and suspicions because of my past. I know it hurts them when I doubt them or cast a shadow of suspicion over why they support me or want to be around me. I am working hard to iron that kink out.
I feel it's important during a trial or tribulation to not get so caught up with people in general who throw water on your fire all the time. I do feel that certain people come into your life for different reasons. It would be nice if we could only meet up with people who like what we like and think like we do all the time; there would be far less arguing and strife. We wouldn't have to explain our feelings or hold ourselves accountable because they would be like you and enable you in perhaps some unpleasant behaviors. Think about it, wouldn't be peaceful and cohesive to be with someone who is exactly like yourself? You wouldn't have to ask them over and over to put the cap on the toothpaste or put their clothes in the hamper not on the floor or not talk down to you like a child because they would already be in that state of mind. Wouldn't that be counter productive of two people who exhibited the same cutting mean behavior of being overly sarcastic or tearing people down instead of building one up?
I truly believe that the people that come into our lives are meant to be in our lives. We don't however get to choose how they are meant to intervene or the duration. The ones that cause us the most grief or stress are the ones we often learn from the most and oddly enough end up loving more deeply thus gaining a better balance of self love. I know it all sounds crazy. I have a friend who believes that your life should be a flat line with no stress, no grief and that everyone around you should be in the same mindset. She can't wrap her mind around that there's a reason why not so nice stuff happens between her and the guy she's dating; thinking that it's all about the guys warped thinking and habits and never about her.
A lot of people do that I guess, look and highlight where the other person is or has gone wrong and not to accept responsibility or even take a moment or two to just stop all the he said she said and take a look inside. I don't chase after drama or put out a welcome mat for people to treat me like shit, nobody should but I have some diamonds that entered my life as coal. I never enjoyed the uncomfortable moments but when I was able to get passed some one's unkind behavior towards me it became more about my resilience and passion for life and embracing who I am and wanting to change what I can.
I feel it's important during a trial or tribulation to not get so caught up with people in general who throw water on your fire all the time. I do feel that certain people come into your life for different reasons. It would be nice if we could only meet up with people who like what we like and think like we do all the time; there would be far less arguing and strife. We wouldn't have to explain our feelings or hold ourselves accountable because they would be like you and enable you in perhaps some unpleasant behaviors. Think about it, wouldn't be peaceful and cohesive to be with someone who is exactly like yourself? You wouldn't have to ask them over and over to put the cap on the toothpaste or put their clothes in the hamper not on the floor or not talk down to you like a child because they would already be in that state of mind. Wouldn't that be counter productive of two people who exhibited the same cutting mean behavior of being overly sarcastic or tearing people down instead of building one up?
I truly believe that the people that come into our lives are meant to be in our lives. We don't however get to choose how they are meant to intervene or the duration. The ones that cause us the most grief or stress are the ones we often learn from the most and oddly enough end up loving more deeply thus gaining a better balance of self love. I know it all sounds crazy. I have a friend who believes that your life should be a flat line with no stress, no grief and that everyone around you should be in the same mindset. She can't wrap her mind around that there's a reason why not so nice stuff happens between her and the guy she's dating; thinking that it's all about the guys warped thinking and habits and never about her.
A lot of people do that I guess, look and highlight where the other person is or has gone wrong and not to accept responsibility or even take a moment or two to just stop all the he said she said and take a look inside. I don't chase after drama or put out a welcome mat for people to treat me like shit, nobody should but I have some diamonds that entered my life as coal. I never enjoyed the uncomfortable moments but when I was able to get passed some one's unkind behavior towards me it became more about my resilience and passion for life and embracing who I am and wanting to change what I can.