Release

Sometimes in hearing someone Else's  problems I begin to wonder whether my wisdom and insight is being wasted. As I twirl around pondering such things I also drudge up all the times I whinged on about a situation that I knew I had control over but skirted away from sound advice from friends and associates. I am often caught between being annoyed at the people who know the right thing to do but won't do it and knowing my boundaries. I get so caught up in trying to free them from being the victim but I think some people who claim to despise drama really like it. It drives me nuts when a woman or any age will stay with someone when they know in their gut that the relationship causes them to be uneasy. they know it's over but will suck it up and continue on closing their their eyes along the way but will throw the victim jacket back on the second they are once again violated.
   I get there are always some circumstance that either compels someone to stay in a bad relationship or find the courage and strength to break the cycle. I have been on both sides of this coin and I know all too well what it's like to see the couple of human aspects of a narrow minded and lying heart, to be under a spell of someone we feel powerless to escape. Since everyone is different we all have different shut off valves. I always think that because I was blessed to have been woken up and given the strength to see things as they are that everyone around me should be able to as well.  I am finding out over and over again that just because I was able to see the light doesn't mean everyone else can.
    I have learned through repetition of reoccurring phone and text therapies that i don't think that the other person is banging on for advice or a lecture which sometimes I get caught up in doing but to just vent. I so can relate to that because when I spill out all my frustrations and fears I'm not really looking for the other person to fix things just to listen.